tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post2899075056971180163..comments2024-03-28T16:47:51.948-04:00Comments on Murder is Everywhere: How I Survived Christmas and Other Stories - Chapter 2: Moving on or not reallyOvidia Yuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05749549092493567689noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-40209679867877835412017-01-26T04:34:06.832-05:002017-01-26T04:34:06.832-05:00You only say that, bro, because mamma
always lik...You only say that, bro, because mamma <br /><br />always liked you best. Annamaria Alfierihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12311596277267789834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-56604941928401925642017-01-25T21:05:14.212-05:002017-01-25T21:05:14.212-05:00Spoken like a true Italian Moma.Spoken like a true Italian Moma.Jeffrey Sigerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00718317707555064653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-30251139059168871042017-01-25T21:04:29.368-05:002017-01-25T21:04:29.368-05:00The one that just left town.
The one that just left town.<br /><br />Jeffrey Sigerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00718317707555064653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-84076862415471829342017-01-25T20:41:08.302-05:002017-01-25T20:41:08.302-05:00Have you told your mother? That is the penultimat...Have you told your mother? That is the penultimate stage of this sort of grief.Annamaria Alfierihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12311596277267789834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-69666226169014309792017-01-25T17:19:49.779-05:002017-01-25T17:19:49.779-05:00Great column, Leye. I'm usually the one who en...Great column, Leye. I'm usually the one who ends up building other people's bookcases for them. Sounds preferable to me than going on a date with anybody.<br /><br />I'm still at the 'sooner or later, everybody screws you over' stage -- which one is that, Jeff?Zoë Sharphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14065427744062846167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-13860277932553552792017-01-25T13:56:51.703-05:002017-01-25T13:56:51.703-05:00Bingo, Caro...we who've been lucky enough to l...Bingo, Caro...we who've been lucky enough to land in the puddle with the right partner--after far too much mud-wrestling with the wrong--salute you!Jeffrey Sigerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00718317707555064653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-89049920425462354952017-01-25T13:38:14.728-05:002017-01-25T13:38:14.728-05:00OK so you a either a great writer. Or a great writ...OK so you a either a great writer. Or a great writer with a true tale to tell. If it's the latter, I will offer myself as a provider of my 'bang your head against the wall until you get some sense into it' service. ( It's a Scottish thing). Don't get involved with women who are hard work- get one that makes you laugh, makes your heart fly and if you are really lucky, can do a good copy edit. Women who jump in puddles if they think nobody is looking are generally a good bet.Caro Ramsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08499318515241879831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-42111730895574262122017-01-25T11:21:32.371-05:002017-01-25T11:21:32.371-05:00This has got to be a best seller either way!This has got to be a best seller either way!Michael Sears (of Michael Stanley)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09886295534214542834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-17118767128603155592017-01-25T11:14:24.229-05:002017-01-25T11:14:24.229-05:00Another great column, Leye. You're either liv...Another great column, Leye. You're either livin' the life or writin' the life, and either way, you tell a mighty good tale.Everett Kaserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12371555243187874414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-49199270405204693202017-01-25T11:13:10.913-05:002017-01-25T11:13:10.913-05:00Or two asses to haul a heavy load...Or two asses to haul a heavy load...Everett Kaserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12371555243187874414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-37061856161799168292017-01-25T10:47:59.020-05:002017-01-25T10:47:59.020-05:00Sooner or later you'll realize that the only w...Sooner or later you'll realize that the only way out of this is moving forward. Put differently, the advice of going to bed with two aspirin to defeat a headache, sure beats Cleopatra's two asps to beat a heartache. Jeffrey Sigerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00718317707555064653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-9571848609695108132017-01-25T10:40:13.953-05:002017-01-25T10:40:13.953-05:00:-) Thank you, Jeffery. I'm taking everything ...:-) Thank you, Jeffery. I'm taking everything I can from this. Everything. From here on after, I'm simply making it all up as I go, fictional account after fictional account. 'Take your pain and turn it into art' is what I'm doing. But, great advice not to talk about the ex. lol. So now, my fictional self might very well commit that very sin on one of his road-to-recovery dates.Leyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14669617004830331791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1990338437877873686.post-26718999734490490762017-01-25T10:24:25.494-05:002017-01-25T10:24:25.494-05:00Okay, Leye, the doctor is in . First things first....Okay, Leye, the doctor is in . First things first. By, "From here on after, I'm just making it up as I go along," are talking about the terrific prose in telling your tale, or in how you plan to run your life?<br /><br />I'm assuming the latter, so, let's talk. You are in the the sixth stage of mourning...it arises when the source of your grief is being jilted, dumped, cast aside. It's called the stage of "Trust no one with my heart," where pessimism rules. You seem to be in full bloom with that, so my prognosis is you're well on the way to healing. <br /><br />Your description of consistently lying in bed at night (lying has two connotations in this context), thinking of all the other partners you'd prefer to be with, I submit is more an expression of how you think your ex was, and future partners are likely to be, rather than a true expression of your own MO. <br /><br />My suggested Rx is that you simply dive right into the pool by calling or asking whoever it is that you want to spend time with, considering every rejection with the optimistic view that it's just one less person to clog your recovery. Simply keep plowing forward without any expectation of anything more that a passing good time. Hanging too many hopes on a fresh meeting is like hanging too many ornaments on a new tree --it will likely topple it. Slow-slow is the key. And for G-d's sake, please try your best to avoid talking about your past relationship, even if your date raises it...that is something that will come later and more naturally, assuming there is a later.<br /><br />Follow these instructions and I can assure you that Christmas will soon be a distant memory as you come roaring into a Happy Valentine's Day.<br /><br />My office will bill you.<br /><br /><br /> Jeffrey Sigerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00718317707555064653noreply@blogger.com